Many couples consider divorce. There is actually a high number of couples who will divorce during their first marriage, and even a higher probability that they will divorce if they are in their second marriage. However, just because statistics show high numbers of divorce, it doesn't mean that any time you are having troubles in your marriage that it is doomed. If you go to see an attorney about divorcing there are probably some things that they will ask first before you start the divorce process. Here are a few things to be aware of.
Have You Tried Marriage Counseling?
Before you start the divorce process, the lawyer will most likely make sure you have explored every route. Since divorce is emotionally hard, expensive, and can take a long time, they want to make sure that the decision is not impulsive. In addition, it would be a shame to get through the whole process and spend all that money without finalizing it. Thus, the attorney will probably tell you to explore other options before divorcing.
This doesn't mean that you can't to an attorney early in the process; for instance, it is not a bad idea to talk to an attorney about what to expect with a divorce. This can help you to prepare yourself and understand your options. However, before you pull the trigger on a divorce, you should at least explore counseling.
Do You Have The Means To Divorce?
Although many people think that divorce is all about the emotional aspect of a marriage, such as if the couple wants to be married to each other anymore, it is also about money. Before you start the divorce process you need to be sure that you can afford to divorce. If you are in serious debt, if you can't afford a lawyer, or if you can't support yourself after the divorce, it may not be the right time. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't divorce, it simply means that you need to get your finances in order. You should try to get out of debt, or file for bankruptcy if applicable, that way you can break ties without sharing all of that debt.
If you are concerned about your finances and divorce, start putting some money away now to prepare for the divorce. You should have a bank account in your name only where you can pay the attorney and cover your living expenses. Talk with a local attorney for additional info.